Ungenerous Fathers in the Community

Art of Successful Marriage February 27, 2020 No Comments admin

Ungenerous Fathers

Above is the link of the news from the Country of Saudi Arabia, this news has become Viral with millions of people sharing their Views and expressing Sympathy with the Woman ( Ungenerous Fathers)

The story is all about a Woman who goes by the name Hessa, Hessas father was a very Mean ( Kanjoos / Baqeel ) and an Un generous man who did not let her Daughter marry, because she inherits Millions He always Discouraged Hessa against marrying saying that Men are always behind your money, he will not allow any body to seek his Daughter for Marriage, now Hessas father has died, he is no more, and hessa wants to marry now, but she is already 40 years and ready to become a 2nd, 3rd or 4th wife

so that was the story of Hessa, now coming to Bangalore we have many fathers who are the Indian Versions of Hessa, and may Daughters who are suffering like hessa right now in Bangalore !

If you see the whole scenerio and go on to Study the Reasons for Delayed marriages of our sisters, then you find the Culprits are no other than their own Fathers, Own Mothers and Brothers

on the second day of Rubaru Program, a name was called up in counter B, He is an Management Graduate working with large Multinational company, He was very decent, well dressed up in Solid Bandhagala Suit, he had a Smile Ready face, he had inherited all qualities of a would be groom, Looked very Matured and was around 33 years

Then a girl came up along with her mother to say they liked him and soon both the families were in the Counselling Counter which was behind the stage ( Parde ke Peeche ! ) and they talked, exchanged each others biodata`s and Photos, the boy was alone and the girl was with her Mother and younger Sister

and now i Presumed this is the case of Love at First Sight and was damn sure they are going to be Married

Going by the Love book The idea is wonderfully romantic, Two strangers see each other “across a crowded Ground,” there’s an instant attraction, an electric spark, and suddenly they’ve found their match and never look back.

In a world where Partner Search often requires a lot of work—that comes with disappointment, rejection, and uncertainty—falling in love at first sight has strong appeal !

So as an Volunteer i was silently watching them and had a thought that this strong initial attraction will become a relationship. but Suddenly the world came crashing down for three of us, Bride, groom and me !

The Girls Father Arrived, he stared at the Boy and me to save from his wrath ! i Introduced myself as Volunteer and counsellor, now he calmed down to some extent, took the biodata of the boy went through it in detail and started his questions Do you Reside in own house ? The Boy yes ! How much is your Salary, 60K, oh my Daughter earn 75K dont you feel Inferior ? The Boy said no in another 3 months i will get Increment in my Pay scale !

Now no Questions left the Girls father became a HR manager ! you have changed 3 companies in 7 years, you dont have a Stable Professional life, why did you do that?

at this point the boy was Struggling for words he tried to explain Uncle, like this that and that Uncle was not ready to listen ! He Humiliated and turned him away breaking the Hearts

Now i Understood he is the Uncle of Hessa father, he dont want to marry her Daughter so that he is eyeing on her Monthly Income nothing more I Have come across many Rich fathers whose daughters are earning and they will not allow them to marry right here in Bangalore, they will be just fooling around, they just visit the events, Broker offices and make sure the Buzz of marriage is alive and in Real they dont want their Daughters to marry, They are cheating with their Daughters,

Among these Categories of fathers Dont Even think only Poor fathers do, no even Rich fathers also fall in the same line, I had even come across an IAS Officer, acting same like Hessas Father
On a Murky note one father went to an extent of giving a Supari to deface the techie daughter to stop her from marriage just 3 months back right here in Bangalore, The father is arrested and the case is before the court now

Dear Fathers, Request you please dont do these kind of things, Kindly dont play with the life of your Daughters, Father is the First Hero in the Life of a Daughter, daughters will be so confident with the likes of father, Daughters feel a Kind of Greatest Security and feel you are Treasures of Trusts

Daughters Feel very fortunate to have such an amazing father like you who has always supported and motivated each day to be a better person. (But don`t cheat them at the time of Marriage )

Daughters irrespective of the Education Status always could not help themselves, They need their father by their side and feel blessed to have you as your father

Daughters feel, Respect and obey you It is because of your hard work and support that they have reached such an amazing positions
So You have Brought up your Daughters in a very well mannered way, The Society Appreciates you

Fathers are a source of constant inspiration for Daughters ( not Ungenerous Fathers)

After all the hard work of bringing up the Daughter now as a father you are caught up in this materialistic pleasure based world. To fulfill your Income desires you don`t want her to marry !

Dear Fathers i Know your income has diminished, i know you are Retired – Not earning anymore, i know that your Buisness is not doing well but still it is wrong to hold your Daughters on Ransom ( Like Kidnappers ! ) ( Ungenerous Fathers)

Remember you are worst than the Somalian Pirates who Hijack Ships on high seas, They will Release women and held only men for Ransom !

Hessa was a Very Fortunate woman that her father died atleast when she was 40, But many of our Sisters in Bangalore were not Fortunate enough ! their fathers are stilling living with them and they are 45 – 50 years !!

In another Interesting case at Bangalore North, the father died with holding three Daughters marriage aged 38, 36, and 33 years ( all working ) after the death of their father when the girls tried to get marry the alliances were broken by their own Brothers

The Brothers thought this is the Tradition of the father and we must continue, they did not allow them to get marry and still those girls are Un Married to this day

Remember, Be Fair with your Daughters, Bringing them up was not only your sole Responsibility but Marrying them off is also your Responsibility
Don`t Bother about your Rizq, For you Allah is the Raziq, he will provide you
إنّ اللهَ هو الرزّاقُ ذو القّوةِ المتين
“Verily, Allah is the All-Provider, Owner of Power, the Most Strong.”
The Name is mentioned in the plural form five times, such as Allah’s statement in Surat Al-Ma’idah (5:114):
وارْزُقنا وأنت خَيرُ الرّازقين
“And provide sustenance for You are the Best of Sustainers.”

Ibn Jarir (Rahimahullaah) said: “Allah is Arrazzaq who sustains His creation and guarantees and warrants for them the Provision.”

Al-Khattabi (Rahimahullaah) said: “He Who provides the sustenance and His provision and Mercy extends all His creation; the believer and unbeliever, the friend and the enemy. He brings the sustenance to the weak who have no means of earning, as Allah (Subhanaahu wa Ta’ala) said in Surat Al-Ankabut (29:60):

وكَأًيّن مِنّ دابّةٍ لاَّ تَحْمِلُ رِزْقَها الله يرزُقُها وإيّاكم
“And so many a moving (living) creature there is, that carries not its own provision! Allah provides for it and for you.”

So Dear Fathers it is high time Change your Heart, Let your Daughter`s Marry – It is a Kind Request